Why am I not good enough?

Have you ever asked yourself this? If you have, take a look at the advice given herein. I think it is a very good piece of advice.

QUESTION:-
Why am I not good enough?

ANSWER:-
Before I attempt to answer that question, let me ask you this. Did she say that to you? Or were you asking yourself this?

If she was the one that asked you this, she might be:-
a) Insecure and saying it to get a bit of attention from you.
b) Really feeling this with valid reasons and she’s giving you a chance to resolve her concerns.
c) Just using it as an excuse to justify whatever she has up her sleeves and playing you like a yo-yo.

If she is insecure, and if you’re not tired of reassuring her, then simple… give her some TLC. There’s nothing to be concerned. It’s just natural part of a relationship.

If there’s really valid reasons for concerns, then you should really look into it and work on it before it gets out of hand. Try to reach a resolution or if not, a compromise at least.

But if she is just using this crap as an excuse to manipulate you like a yo-yo, then the point of contention is not just if you’re good enough. You have a serious relationship issue that I suggest that you two sit down to sort it out and to figure out if you guys ought to be together in the first place.

If you were the one asking yourself this, you must be:
a) Truly, madly and deeply in love with her and you only want the best for her.
b) Feeling inferior and small or feeling insecure or in need of TLC..
c) Feeling jealous or annoyed because she’s always praising or comparing someone else with you.

If you are truly in love with her and asked yourself this from time to time, it will be to reflect if you had given your best to her. Then there’s nothing to worry about. She’s a lucky woman.

If you feel inferior or insecure, don’t be too hard on yourself. We all come to this junction at one point in time or another. Just be careful that you do not make that transition of making it a habit or using it as a means to get what you want. This is because; she will get tired of re-assuring you and mothering you. There’d come a time that she will eventually have enough of it and really feel that you’re not good enough (thanks to you because you made it true by nurturing it).

If you feel jealous or annoyed because someone is always better, then you have to identify if the problem is you or it is her. If the problem is you being jealous, what’s your problem? She chose you right? So no matter how much she praises someone else, it just amounts to nonchalant ramblings of “why is the grass greener on the other side”. Deal with it.

But if her demeanor is with intent to humiliate you, then you have reasons that call for concern. You should seriously determine what is the agenda of your relationship and if this is the type of relationship that you would want.

So, to answer your question, “Why am I not good enough?”…. my answer will be “Does she love you?”… If she does, then it would not matter if you are good enough for her or not?... If she doesn't, then you will never ever going to be good enough...