Today, Iggi turns 8 yrs old... I just want the world to know that Iggi will always be dear to my heart. Never mind if he's thousands of miles away and that he's not always by my side. His place in my heart can never be replaced.
Many people had asked me this question... "Now that I've got Isaiah, how can I divide my love equally?"... Perhaps, one day, Iggi or Isaiah will ask me this question too.. My answer is one that is simple. I don't divide my love.. I multiply my love... So regardless how many more children I have hereafter, I won't be loving any one of them less.. That's the power of love..
Here, on Iggi's 8th birthday, I would also like to pay tribute to Charon. Don't give me that look on your faces. Yes, we had some issues in the past and we both had already paid dearly for them. Everyone here knows what I've been put thru for the past 4 years.. but I would not want anyone here to assume that Charon had it any easier than me. It was tough for her too.
We have both sort of eventually agreed to do whatever that will be in best interest for Iggi. We may now be divorced, but we both still have that role to play as Iggi's parents. We have no right to deny Iggi of either of his parent's love. Iggi has the right to be loved by BOTH, his daddy AND his mommy.
Iggi is growing up. Not just physically & academically, but emotionally, psychologically, socially, etc as well. He needs to be loved by both his daddy & mommy. He needs to be heard. He is beginning to form his own beliefs and character based on his individualism. And while he is going thru this very delicate phase of his life, it is very important for us (as his parents) to guide him on the right path.
Charon is doing all that she can and I know it is hard for her enforcing discipline on Iggi. She must be able to do that without being held at ransom of losing custody of Iggi. I have given her my word that I will back her and she has given me her word that Iggi's welfare will always be her paramount concern.
As for Iggi, I will always be there to hear his grievances and ensure that he is heard with fairness. I hope to impart some strong values in him that will mould him to be someone that he can be proud of. It won't be easy though. Limited by geographical barriers and the high costs of overseas calls, I do all I can to perform my fatherly duties. I enjoy each and every conversation with him. Especially, when he relates what he's going thru. To be able to have him open up to me never fails to make my day. Despite our long distance relationship, Iggi's progress is commendable. There's still lots of room for improvement but I'm confident he will do fine. He just have to put more work to it.
And as I lay my head on pillow after updating this page of my life, I pray to God to watch over Iggi with my favourite serenity prayer.. "Dear God, please help grant Iggi the serenity, to accept the things he can't change.. the courage and strength to change the things he can.. and most importantly, the wisdom to know the difference.. Please also show him the way to embrace love and forgiveness in his daily life"....
Iggi, daddy loves you and daddy misses you very much.
Hugs & Kisses,
Love,
Daddy
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